Time and tide wait for no man, observes an English proverb. For most, time moves too quickly. We cannot find enough time to accomplish everything we want to do. As we grow older, time seems to fly by even faster.
A slight breeze stirred the morning air as the military honor guard removed the Stars and Stripes flag from the blue and silver casket, folded it and presented the flag to the widow. Surrounded by her children and grandchildren, she quietly accepted the flag and words of appreciation for her late husband's service to his country.
Your friend has just suffered a severe loss. How can you help?
I stared at the empty chair by the coffee table. It was a comfortable chair. The oversized, red-felt cushion was worn from hours of sitting. As I gazed at the chair, I was assaulted with memories. Daddy had sat in that chair every morning, drinking coffee with Mom. I could remember playing checkers with Daddy, as he sat in that chair by the coffee table.
Events seem to lose their importance after the death of a loved one. This lack of feeling is nature's way of helping you to do things necessary to carry on.
Emotional turmoil
Extremes of emotion are common throughout bereavement. Now is when friends' emotional support, sympathetic ears and reassuring words may be most needed.
My wife was in bed. She'd been there for about three weeks with what we had been told was a back problem. One day the doctor came and took a blood sample. He soon communicated the results to me.
Shock, numbness, frustration, emptiness, loneliness — death is real, and so are its effects. We don't like to think about death, so we live as if we are never going to die. No wonder death often finds us unprepared. But feelings of extreme pain and loss must be confronted. We have written these articles to help our readers cope with grief and the loss of loved ones.
While sipping coffee and browsing news one morning, I came across a lead sentence so amusing I had to write it down. Take a look.
Fri Dec 2, 11:22 AM ET NEW YORK (Reuters Health)—Women who go through menopause in their early 40s may have a slightly higher risk of death later in life compared with their peers, a large U.S. study suggests.